So you just spent the last 20+ years raising terrific kids. For years you took care of all the ouchies, you helped with homework and taught your kids how to be good human beings. And now they are grown. They move out. And they don’t need you anymore. Because you did your job. They are now responsible adults.
You should be happy and proud. You should be excited that you finally can be a bit selfish and just focus on yourself. But you don’t really know who “you” really are anymore. And you find yourself confused, lonely and depressed.
These are all normal emotions that we all go through when we did a good job at raising out kids. The important thing is to realize that you are totally normal and you will get through these feelings of sadness.
There are different things you can do to work through this depression One thing you can do is get counseling. It really helps to talk it through. Another thing you can do is find a someone who you can talk to who has been through this.
You can also look at this as an opportunity to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life. Is there a hobby or something that you have always wanted to do, but couldn’t because you had kids at home. Now is your time to be selfish and just enjoy being you. Life is good.
You have a choice to make midlife a sad time of your life or you can choose to be happy and excited. I mean you still have the entire other half of your life to live. Why not enjoy it.
Look at this as a time to be free to do what you want. Or not do was your think you should do. Let yourself enjoy life a bit. Be good to yourself.
If you are feeling sad because your kids are out of the house just remember, it could be worse. There are parents out there who still have a 30 year old at home who doesn’t want to grow up! Yes, it could be worse.
Have you suffered from empty nest syndrome? If so, how did you get through it. Please feel free to leave a comment below.