Midlife Crisis Divorce
A Midlife Divorce can happen for a number of reasons.
- Midlife Crisis
One reason would be the result of either you or your spouse going through a midlife crisis. A midlife crisis can be devastating to a marriage.
When a midlife crisis happens the “normal marriage” is literally turned upside down. And anyone who has a spouse go through a midlife crisis you know that they are going to do what they want to do, no matter how you feel or what you do. During a midlife crisis they find themselves being very selfish. You simply need to observe and detach and you need to wait it out.
Or do you? I decided that after 3 years of my husbands midlife crisis and us losing our home because of his quitting his job that I had had enough. And I made a decision to separate.
- You Grow Apart
I think this is the most common reason. Over the years couple begin to lose their connection with each other emotionally and sexually.
Many couples realize this after their children grow up and move out. They discover that over the years they lost touch with each other and now have nothing in common. Or maybe they are just bored. Or maybe now that the kids are grown both adults have different ideas of what their future looks like.
For example the wife may be excited about the freedom of not having to take care of anyone anymore. She can be a bit selfish and find a new career or hobby. But her husband thinks that she should focus on him.
Sometimes couples have been unhappy for a very long time and hung in there for the kids. Now that those kids are grown, they feel like it is their time to move on.
This really ties in with growing apart. But unfortunately an affair can happen in marriages for different reasons, including boredom, lack of sex in the marriage and midlife crisis. When it happens the is no undoing it. And many marriages can’t survive.