After being off the market for over 25 years I found dating in my 40’s to be very intimidating. I was excited, yet hesitant. But once I got out there I realized dating is actually a lot of fun and it is pretty easy to be successful with online dating.
For me online dating was very helpful for several reasons. First I was able to find out who in my area was available. This would have been very difficult otherwise. At our age it is difficult to find men who are single. The other thing that I totally love about online dating in midlife is that you have time to really get to know someone before you meet them for the first time.
The men that I have dated, I emailed or text-ed with them for a week or two before deciding to meet. And then once I decide to meet, I always make it in a public place like a coffee shop. This way I am not putting myself in any sort of danger or risk. And by the way, I have yet to meet anyone that is creepy. All the men that I have met have genuinely been looking for a match.
As you are getting comfortable with dating in midlife you need to be confident. Please know that you are amazing and there is a match for you. After leaving a unhealthy marriage it took me several months to gain my confidence back…I mean the last time I dated was back in the 1980’s. And I was 100 lbs lighter and had fewer lines and wrinkles… But guess what? The men out there are just like us. They have also aged. They don’t expect perfection.
And one of the things that I have noticed about the mature male (at least the ones I have met) is that looks don’t really matter as much as you might think. Okay, it is nice to be attractive, but it isn’t important to men that you have lots of makeup or have the perfect figure. Most of the men I have dated tell me they prefer a natural woman. I once had a man tell me that he preferred me without makeup. He wanted to know when he kissed my lips and my face he wouldn’t taste make up. To me, this was a very sexy thing to say. After hearing this comment from him, I knew I was going to be getting kissed. But secondly I realized that I was attractive without my make-up and it really helped to put me at ease and help me relax.
Remember to be realistic. Just like you, no man is perfect. You simply will not find the perfect man. But you may find that person who gives you butterflies in your tummy or someone who shares many of your interests. I look at dating as a sort of interview process. You are screening people in order to find the right match. And that is one of the nice things about dating sites.
Most sites have questions or surveys that you take that help figure out the perfect match. And I have to tell you I have found this very helpful. I have had great success with some of the matches that my dating site and found for me. I was lucky to find a few people that I have good chemistry with pretty quickly but sometimes it takes time. Just take it slow and don’t rush love. I suggest relaxing and focus on enjoying yourself. When you find the right one, you will know it.
I have had success with online dating, and I’m sorry, but I’m not quite ready to share just yet. But I will tell you online dating is fun and it works.
If you are looking for love in midlife, like I am, I sincerely wish you all the best. Please feel free to share your experience here.
You also may want to read Online Dating Success Secrets for Women 40/50+ (An “Online Dating for Women” Guide – How to Find True Lasting Love Online). Yes it is possible to find love online.