I just joined a dating site. I’m not quite ready to jump out there and start dating lots of guys, but I would like to have a chance to start talking to members of the opposite sex.
After being separated for over a year, I just feel like I am ready to get out in the world again.
So I joined a dating site as a way of getting my feet wet. In case you have never been to a dating site, the first thing you need to do is fill out a profile.
This was hard for me, writing about myself and trying to describe the kind of person I am. Then I wrote about what I was looking for in a man. This was much easier. Then of course probably the most important part is uploading a picture. For me I tried to put up an image of myself where I was smiling and also where I look as normal and natural as possible.
Then, depending on the site, you choose what you are searching for. For me it is a male within an hour drive between the ages of 48 and 60.
Then the systems with find similar people to what you are searching.
I enjoy looking at the pictures and reading the profiles of men. It really is fun. I am not yet comfortable with emailing them or connecting with them, but I’m sure it will be easier.
I have noticed many different kinds of men looking for different things…and this has me really re-evaluating what it is that I want.
Many men are looking for a serious relationship. You know a wife, someone to settle down with. And one day I do too. But now, no I don’t want something too serious.
Then there are the men who are just looking for a friend to hang out with and if there is a connection then intimacy. This is also known as friends with benefits. This sounds the most interesting to me, but boy scary. I mean what happens if I meet someone who I really connect with and I lose my heart in the process?
Then there are the men who are married or not married and they just want sex. That obviously isn’t for me.
I am finding online dating exciting and scary.
I’m smiling to myself as I write this as I know I would never in 100 years ever thought I would join a dating site. But I guess it is the new way to meet men.
If you have ever used a dating site, I would love to hear about your experiences. Were they good or bad? Is there anything I should be concerned about?