For the last 5 years I have been asking the question, At “what is the age women go through menopause?”. I had a hard time getting the answer. All the older women in my life seemed to have a hysterectomy so I had nothing to compare it too.
My mother informed me that her mother went through the change in her 50’s. My doctor told me it is anywhere between 48 and 55. She told me, that it isn’t consider complete until you have been a year without a period. Over the last year, I I noticed my period become less regular. Some months would be heavy and some months, very light. Finally I had my last period in November and turned 50 in January. So I would say for me, 50 is an exciting year! I am going through the change. If you are reading this article, you may have been looking for an answer to the question. Hopefully this will help you.
But here is the thing about Midlife for women and the change:
Are you ready for it?
Change is good.
I mean if things were always the same, life would be so boring. Somehow the years went by and we (women) have aged, but we are far from being old. I think it is important to embrace being middle aged. And embrace all the changes that come along with it. We are here, we can’t go back, Why not embrace it?
As someone who is in midlife, I realized that I am not the same person I was in my 20’s or 30’s. I’m different on the inside as well as the outside.
On the outside, My skin is different. It feels much dryer than it used to. And I am discovering age spots, you know those darker patches of skin that were not there before. My body feels softer and not quite as firm as it used to be. I can’t wear the same kind of makeup and clothes that I chose when I was younger. It just doesn’t look flattering. Actually it isn’t right at all.
So I have learned to find my natural beauty. And I realized, I am beautiful. I wear very little makeup. I have found that less is more. I wear very natural colors that are just enough to give me a bit of color and glow. I want people to look at me and think “Wow”, she looks good for 50. I want them to see me, not my make-up.
So generally I only wear foundation, lipstick, blush and mascara. That is it. And guess what?! I don’t get my yucky period any more. Yippee to that. As a bonus to midlife, I can have sex when ever I want and actually enjoy it. There is no worries about getting pregnant.
Most importantly though, as a midlifer I realized most of the change has been inside of me. My outlook on life is so much different then it was when I was younger. I find that the little stresses don’t seem as important anymore. I tend to focus on things that feel good and make me happy. I realized that I don’t care so much about what people think. Actually I really could care less. I am happy and I focus on positive stuff in life.
What about you? Have you noticed lots of changes in midlife other than just losing your period?
PS. If you are looking for a good book on Menopause, check out The Wisdom of Menopause (Revised Edition): Creating Physical and Emotional Health During the Change.