Today I wanted to take a moment to talk about the fear of dating online.
I’m writing this post because I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who has been single for the last few years. She has shared with me that she is really lonely and doesn’t want to be alone as she gets older. But she simply hasn’t met anyone yet.
I can relate to how she feels. Finding yourself single in midlife can be difficult. And putting yourself out there and dating again can be really scary. Especially if you have had a partner for a good part of your life.
My suggestion to her was to do what I did, go check out some dating sites for people over 50.
Her reaction was very negative. The thought of meeting someone online was scary for her. She was worried that it would cost a lot of money or she would put herself in danger.
I explained to her that there are many free dating websites that are really good. There are two free dating websites in particular that I really liked. One of those two sites, OKCupid, is where I met the man I am dating. The other free website is called plentyoffish.com.
The thing I really like I about these sites is they have you answer questions. It is sort of a survey. There are questions related to life, sex, religion, politics and relationships as well as other things. It is really important to answer all of the questions honestly. You will be given potential mates, based on how you answered the questions.
Sample question: Do you like cats? a) Yes! I have cat(s) b) no I’m allergic c) I don’t own a cat, but I like them. d) I hate cats.
The way it works is when someone goes to your profile they can read your questions and answers, but they can only read the ones they have already answered. If they want to read how you answered a question, they need to answer it first.
There is also a place where you can write comments to explain your answer.
If you have found yourself single in midlife, now may be the time to join a dating site. You don’t have to meet anyone you don’t want to. Get online and start checking out some profiles, maybe even chat with someone. Then if you feel comfortable with someone, you can arrange to meet them in a public place like a Denny’s or a Panera Bread.
I know that dating in midlife can be so scary. But it is so worth it. You never know, you may meet your new prince charming, like I did.
Here are 5 top dating sites people over 50:
Plenty of Fish